Euthanasia For A Beloved Pet: 11 Questions You Should Consider

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Stranger by the roadside, do not smile
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My master wept when I died, and his own hand
Laid me in earth and wrote these lines on my tomb.
-Anonymous Greek Poet, 300 BC

Making the Decision to Euthanize a Beloved Pet: a Quick Checklist

The decision as to when is the right time to put our beloved furry friend to sleep has to be among the hardest of questions an individual or family will ever have to make. This is because the answer as to the right time is loaded with what seems like an endless amount of complications and emotional contradictions. That is, there are so many sources of information and input that are involved in making this most difficult of choices that it is almost impossible to list each question and then summarize every one.

Therefore, in this quick checklist, I provide only the most basic of thought-provoking questions. And that is all that anyone can do. Ultimately, the final determination you make still rests with you, the precious pet’s loving owner.

In closing, I’d like to remind the gentle pet owner that this guide represents only my personal observations on this very sensitive subject. There are probably as many ways to approach this difficult task as there are stars in the sky. My sincerest hope is that this guide will help make your path just a little bit easier.

1. Who is the dog or cat’s primary care-giver?

As simple as this question sounds, the answer is probably the most important one that needs to be decided. And it needs to be decided early in the process because sometimes the owner and the primary care-giver are not the same person. It is important to know the answer because someone, ultimately, will have to make the final decision. The answer to this question can be a real can of worms; however, if the pet is lucky at this end-time of its life, the primary care-giver and his or her owner will be one in the same and all will go smoothly.

2. Has a recent, objective, overall-health assessment of the pet’s condition been made by a veterinarian?

As the primary care-giver of an aged (usually), chronically ill, or mortally wounded pet, you may instinctively feel that you know what’s best for your pet. But unless you are a practicing veterinarian, you really can’t; especially if you and the animal are very close. Because you’re often too emotionally involved.

This question also serves a double purpose. A visit to a veterinarian will help to confirm your instincts with regards to your pet’s actual quality of life from an objective, medical point of view. Or, as is frequently the case, it may also yield some suggested drugs or therapy that may greatly improve your pet’s quality of life and will then allow you to have more time with them.

***An important side note: As a primary care veterinarian who has practiced front-line veterinary medicine and surgery for twenty-five years, I often see pet owners who have waited too long before bringing their pet in to see me, at which time I’m no longer able to reasonably help the animal. When asked why they waited so long, the answer without fail is: “Doc, I was afraid you were going to force me to put my beloved Fido or my sweet little Fluffy to sleep.”

Although I talk about this problem at some length in the book, I now will SHOUT the following statement as simply and as strongly as I can! Most beloved and gentle reader, at least here in America:

TO THE BEST OF MY KNOWLEDGE AND EXPERIENCE AND PROVIDING YOU ARE OF SOUND MIND, THE ONLY PERSON WHO CAN FORCE YOU (AS THE ANIMAL’S OWNER) TO PUT YOUR PET TO SLEEP IS A JUDGE VIA A COURT ORDER. YOUR NEIGHBOR CAN’T, YOUR KIDS CAN’T, YOUR VETERINARIAN CAN’T, OR YOUR MOTHER-IN-LAW CAN’T!

3. Do you feel you are being forced in one direction or another with regards to euthanizing your pet? Or worse, are you being made to feel guilty?

Are you considering putting your precious pet to sleep because you, as the dog or cat’s primary care-giver, feel that their time has come? Or is it because a visiting mother-in-law, a well-meaning friend, or some other person who may have absolutely no business to do so tells you that the pet is “suffering.”

4. Have you considered the dog or kitty’s quality of life from your pet’s point of view?

The term quality of life has as many definitions as there are people on our planet. This is because everyone has their own worldviews that are based upon their individual life’s experiences, their basic personal natures and sensitivities, their maturity (or lack of maturity), and, sadly, their social and political circles. There are people who feel that as long as there is life, then everything possible (which also is a confusing term) should be done to extend it. There are others who feel that animals should not have to suffer any misery or discomfort at all.

Additional Questions to Ask When You’re at a Veterinarian’s Office

5. As your pet sits on an exam table between you and a veterinarian, are you and she sharing at least a few common values and opinions?

This is important on many levels. This is because, when all is said and done, regardless of whatever decision is finally made, it is important for your peace of mind that both you and the veterinarian should come away with some sense of the right thing having been done.

6. Do you feel you’re being pushed in one direction or another into doing something you’re not comfortable with? Is the doctor clearly sharing and explaining to you his reasons and thought processes?

If you find yourself feeling uncomfortable with whatever discussion is taking place, there’s a chance you’re probably correct. Be cautious, but don’t always first assume you’re being taken advantage of. People often confuse sinister intentions with a simple lack of communication; you may have an opposite worldview from that of the veterinarian with regards to end-of-life issues, or you’re simply both just a bad fit.

It’s important to remember that veterinarians are people, too. We all have our hopes and dreams, our life’s experiences, and our points of view. We have mortgages, student loans, kid’s braces, and family obligations that must be filled.

7. As the pet’s primary care-giver, are you willing or able to perform any aftercare that may be required to save or extend your dear pet’s life?

This is a huge concept to keep in mind. This is because very often, in the passion and desperation of the moment, difficult and sometimes lengthy aftercare needs are frequently not factored into your decision.

8. Have you seriously considered your precious dog or cat’s age, their personal temperament, or their tolerance for the possible demands of hospitalization and/or long-term care that is about to be thrust upon him or her?

This is a question very few pet owners ever consider. Even if you’re willing to sacrifice yourself for your pet’s sake, will he or she be willing or able to go along with your wishes? Because we humans are thinking and rationalizing creatures, we have the ability to project our lives into the future. That is, if we are sick or injured, we are able to have reasonable expectations that whatever medical procedure is going to be performed on us, we will know that someday we will be better.

Dogs and cats don’t. All they know is that somebody who has always treated them with nothing but loving kindness is now jabbing them with needles every day, is making them  eat a special diet that they absolutely hate, and is forcing them to spend time in a hospital with other people who are jabbing them with needles, etc., as well.

9. Can you afford any heroic lifesaving or life-extending procedures for your pet?

This is a devastatingly difficult question that the vast majority of my treasured clients have had to grapple with when confronted with lifesaving or life-extending treatment for their aged or injured pet. Yes, it is unfair that money has to come into the picture, but that’s just the way the world works.

10. Is the ultimate decision you are trying to make in your dog or cat’s best interest, or are you doing (or not doing) it for your own sake?

This is a tough, tough question! From both my personal and professional experiences of having to confront both sides of the realities of pet euthanasia, I know that this question—at least on its surface—may sound a bit insensitive. But it still needs to be asked. If I didn’t ask, I would not be fulfilling the oath I took when I became a veterinarian. Sorry.

11. Finally, when all has been said and done, and you find yourself still confused and/or undecided, what should you do now?

This is a tough question as well, and I discuss this common aspect of the euthanasia decision-making process and make some detailed suggestions in the body of this book. But for now I will just say this: The question as to whether it is the right time to put your beloved pet to sleep can never be answered absolutely. Except in the most obvious of cases, there will always be doubts and second-guessing. All we mere mortals can do is the best we can with the resources and information we have at the time, and then move on.

However, having just said that, it has been my experience that if you are still completely baffled as to what to do, don’t do it. Period! At least not yet. If after going back and forth, and back and forth, and back and forth, and you still can’t come to a reasonably clear decision, my experiences have been that it is best to wait.

 

My Sincerest hope:

My sincerest hope is that this short checklist has been of some small help in deciding if your beloved pet’s time to “cross the Rainbow Bridge” has arrived (or not, hopefully.) If you have found these questions helpful, please share this link with your friends. It really is nice to know that people actually read my humble posts. If you have any thoughts or comments, please find the comment link below.
This checklist can be downloaded by clicking on the PDF download below. I also have a personal request: These questions were designed to go along with a book I’ve written specifically to help pet owners at this most difficult time. I have examples and comments on all eleven of these questions. Purchasing it, either as a Kindle or Amazon paperback, will help me pay for the costs of these blog posts.
Thank you,
Dr. Richard Orzeck
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